Foster carer breaks stereotypes to support local teenagers

John, who lives in Worcester, has been a foster carer with Worcestershire Fostering for just over a year, and has proved the powerful difference a nurturing, stable adult can make in the lives of vulnerable teenagers.

In a heartfelt reflection on his journey, John explained how his early awareness of inequality and his experience supporting vulnerable colleagues inspired him to become a foster carer. John used to work in the catering industry and supported adults, who spoke very little English, into work.

He said: “Helping support them personally with a roof over their head, recognising that they might be embarrassed by their lack of English and standing up for them when they suffered abuse from customers has all led me to develop the skills for fostering.”

John has cared exclusively for adolescents and teenagers, recognising the challenges – and the joy – of supporting young people through this pivotal life stage.

“They don’t do anything you ask them to do – because developmentally, that’s what teens are supposed to be like. They want to argue with you, but they don’t want to just argue – they want to be understood and accepted. They’re fascinating, and the future.”

Despite not having any birth children, John’s commitment to fostering is rooted in a desire to be the kind of role model he remembers having at that age: “When I was a young adult, there were people who supported me. I remember those significant adult role models who really made a difference to me in those difficult teenage years, helping me transition from teen to adult. That’s what I want to be for the teens in my care.”

Despite societal expectations and initial doubts from friends and family, John has found strength and purpose in his role: “Some people don’t expect a single man to be a carer. Culturally there are not that many examples of male carers – it’s always women seen as primary care givers. But I knew I had something to give. My gender and sexuality has not, so far, been a barrier to doing the best job. The kids don’t care. They don’t make the same judgments some adults make.”

Councillor Justin Bowen, Cabinet Member for Children and Families, praised John’s commitment to fostering: “We are incredibly proud of foster carers like John. He represents the heart of what fostering is all about – stepping forward with empathy, strength, and self-awareness to offer young people the support they need. His story challenges outdated perceptions and highlights the urgent need for more carers, especially for teenagers.”

John encourages other single men to consider fostering, while being honest about the commitment it involves: “Don’t be naïve. It’s the most difficult job you’ll ever take on. But it’s incredibly rewarding because you see a young person emerging from the chaos.

With more teenagers than ever needing stable, supportive homes, John’s story is a powerful reminder that fostering is not about fitting a mould – it’s about being there when it counts.

Worcestershire Fostering is actively recruiting foster carers, especially for teenagers. To find out more, visit the Worcestershire Fostering website.