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Is your child or someone you know being bullied?

Knowing your child is being bullied can be very upsetting but it is very common in primary school-aged children. Children may bully other children because they are experiencing changes in their own lives so are experimenting with power and boundaries.

How to recognise bullying

  • shyness around others
  • becoming withdrawn - not wanting to talk about school, college or work
  • trouble expressing their thoughts
  • low self-confidence
  • appearing anxious or fearful
  • changes in behaviour
  • avoid situations such as going to school or worrying about going places
  • school work declining
  • ripped clothing
  • not eating lunch or going hungry

How can I help someone who is being bullied?

  • be a good listener and encourage them to tell you what's happened
  • try to stay calm and not act too shocked when they talk to you about what's happened – if you over-react this may scare them into not sharing anything else with you
  • explain some reasons for bullying, it may help you child understand that it's not their fault
  • be understanding of the problem and offer to work together to find a solution, when you think of some options, help them to choose the best solution to try
  • do not encourage them to fight back as this can often lead to more bullying
  • practise your solution through role play or writing things down, then put it in to action
  • praise your child for talking to you about the bullying and for coming up with a solution to resolve it
  • where appropriate inform the victims school, workplace or trusted adult that you are concerned they are being bullied

Useful links

Website: Bullies Out - Helping some else (opens in a new window)

Website: Bullying UK How to spot the signs of bullying (opens in a new window)

Website: Bullying UK - Advice for parents

Website: Childline - Bullying, abuse and safety