Getting Help If You Are Worried About Your Behaviour

Information and guidance

If you're worried about the way you have behaved or are behaving towards your partner, ex-partner or family then there is help available. Domestic abuse is a number of abusive behaviours, both physical and non-physical, that may occur frequently or infrequently. Domestic abuse is not a single event; it usually takes place over time.

Domestic abuse is a number of abusive behaviours, both physical and non-physical, that may occur frequently or infrequently. Domestic abuse is not a single event it usually takes place over time. 

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If you have used any of the following behaviours towards your partner or ex-partner, then realise that these behaviours are abusive. Read the following list of abusive behaviours and think carefully about your behaviour and relationship:

  • psychological and emotional: name calling, shouting, smashing things, insults, threats etc.
  • physical abuse: slapping, hitting, pushing, kicking, grabbing, choking and even weapons.
  • economic abuse: restricting access or use of things such as money, transport and phone.
  • intimidation: violence or threats of violence.
  • sexual abuse: pressuring, unwanted touching, forcing sex, sulking or punishing, raping and humiliation
  • use of children: threats of violence, endangering children, forcing children to be abusive, fighting over custody or visitation, undermining of parenting or false reports to Child Protection Services
  • post-separation abuse: unwelcome contact by phone, text, letter, email and via relatives and friends, waiting outside their home, workplace, child’s school without consent, checking up on movements even on social media sites.

You might have done some things only once or twice, but in many cases, you’ll notice that there is a pattern to the abusive things you do. By making yourself more aware of your abusive behaviours it will become easier to make changes.